Best man scolds bride during wedding speech after she accused him of ruining day
When it comes to a wedding, there’s arguably only two important roles – apart from the bride and groom, of course – and that is the Maid of Honour and the best man.
It’s no secret that both of these positions can come with a lot of responsibilities, stress and expense, which is why it’s so important for anyone taking on the role to communicate how much or little they’re prepared to do, at the very beginning.
Fortunately, one man did exact that, when his best mate asked him to be his best man. He was thrilled to be asked, but having just bought a house with a baby due in November, the man told his mate he would be limited in what he could contribute financially.
“I let him know I was limited in what I could contribute financially, but did tell him I would try my best. So, I went to the bachelor party, I rented the tux, and paid for mine and my wife’s dinner at the rehearsal dinner,” he explained on Reddit’s Am I The A**hole forum.
“I also had a gift of £220 ($300) that I was going to give them, but we will get to why I didn’t give it to them.”
In the run up to the wedding, the best man started receiving multiple texts a day from his best mate’s now-wife, and if he didn’t respond – which he often didn’t as he was busy working and renovating his house – she’d start calling him.
The bride laid dozens of rules for the best man, from telling him he wasn’t allowed to talk about his wife’s pregnancy to even go as far as telling his wife she needed to wear something that would conceal her bump.
“According to her, I was not helping the groom enough; he had to help her with favours, seating charts and programmes, so I had to help him with those things. She also said to get ready to help with thank you notes after the wedding,” the man continued.
“She said if I was a true best man, I would offer to pay for the bar bill. I don’t even know what that means.”
The best man went on to say the bride demanded to read and approve his speech before the rehearsal dinner, while demanding that he had to include her in it as much as possible.
“She told me to make up things if I had to. I was also NOT allowed to include anyone but the two of them and no inside jokes or stories about my buddy that didn’t include her,” he added.
After speaking to his friend about his future wife’s unreasonable demands, the groom told him to “just play ball on this one,” adding that he’d be dealing with her nonsense for the rest of his life.
Although still annoyed, the best man calmed and decided to go along with it. Well, until things escalated on the day of the wedding.
“All the bride and my buddy did is scold me, berate me and bark orders. I headed down to the bar for the a drink and the bride’s mother is there. She warns me not to get drunk because I’ve ruined her daughter’s day enough. That was the final straw,” he said.
“I didn’t give them the card with the cash and in the speech, I used my friend’s exact wording about having to deal with her nonsense for the rest of his life. I wished them the best and told him I’d always be there for him, especially during the divorce.” Savage.
Turning to Reddit to ask whether he was the a**hole in the situation, the best man was met with mixed responses.
“Look dude, you were totally justified, but you also had ample opportunity to jump off the crazy train before it got this far,” one Reddit user commented.
“Being a good friend means having the comfortability and latitude to say no when your friends are off the rails. You waited until the last min and let your emotions get the better of you. Your wife deserved better from these people and from you in this moment.”
Another added: “Your speech was probably inappropriate, but I’m going to say you’re not the ahole based on all the horrible c* they did to you.
“I also don’t understand the thinking of ‘it’s the brides day.’ No it’s not, you’re both getting married, it’s just as much of an important day for the groom as it is for the bride.
“But, it doesn’t have to be all this demanding shit that some people pull with their weddings. It’s supposed to be a celebration, and that type of s*** just turns it into drama and makes everyone involved miserable.”